7 things, nobody told you about your weddingday
There are things that you simply cannot prepare for – you have to experience it by yourself: each and every married woman will tell you that her wedding day has passed by as a flight. Posing for the wedding photographer, wedding ceremony, congratulations and admiring the location: You will hurry from event to event and before you realize yourself, you cut the cake in the late evening.
That is why we have gathered some wisdom for you. Our favourite quote comes from the Huffington Post in this context:
“And all I could think about was: You have something of no idea at all about what you get into there.”
The article is about the wisdom that the work colleagues should give to a couple who are soon to be married. And the writer takes the title (“I wish I knew that before the wedding day”) to the following:
“I simply mean that your wedding day, when you are standing and taking these vows before the eyes of your family and friends, you have absolutely no idea (and that is not your fault) what a marriage looks like at all. How it feels. The ups and downs that you will stand through together and how they will change over time. “
We find it great. We think that this article is a very important point: You just do not know what is coming to you. And yet, you give the man you love the most important promise of your life. That life brings twists and turns, we know theoretically, but how this looks in practice, none of us has a clue.
That is why our point 1: defy the storm – but do it with understanding
“My best advice on your wedding day: See this day as the beginning of your journey. Go on board of your ship and sail. When the storm comes-and it will – your instinct will tell you to turn back and return to what you know. But what you seek is not behind you. You will get lost if you try to find it back. Hold on to each other, comfort and let you comfort, understand and have understanding, love, and let love. Then you can wait for the sky to tear open. “
Beautiful. But after a little philosophical detour we would like to reveal to you the wisdom that some of our couples have contributed to:
Our point 2: So much love in one day
All your loved ones are gathered together. They’ve been plastered out, and might have a long way behind – just for you and your darling. All attention and the love of all will fall down all day only on you two. This can sometimes be a little too much.
Perhaps your friends and relatives keep you so busy that you do not even come to dinner because you have to keep a chat with everyone and take pictures.
Our point 3: You will be a little tired – and might want some time alone
Marrying is especially something – emotionally exhausting. It is possible that you did not get too much sleep before the wedding. Nerves. And since you are always the centre of all attention, you have no time to breathe. Probably you even need the help of your bridesmaids at the toilet. And the moments in which you can sneak away from them are accompanied by the wedding photographers.
Believe our couples – you would want you to have a few moments for yourself. Or with your treasure. But since you know now, you can prepare … and make plans 😉
Our point 4: The last 10 minutes before the wedding ceremony are the most demanding
For weeks you have prepared yourself. Introduce yourself to the inner process with your inner eye … and now you realize that the last 10 minutes before you go to the altar are the worst of all.
Why? You give the man whom you love a promise that will last for eternity. In front of a grandiose audience. And we humans have the tendency to build tension before such a moment.
Our point 5: The wedding ceremony is the most beautiful part of the wedding
The wedding ceremony is simply magical. The mood is very special: emotions are in the air, and you feel the feelings of the spectators properly. In addition there are hundreds of traditions that add weight to your ceremony: the words you speak are almost like a magical formula. My love for you! Our tip: Be as careful as possible and enjoy every moment.
Our point 6: Your face will hurt a little of all the smiling
Here we are again, we wedding photographers: you will want so much for us to smile that the muscles on the face will be tired. But it is not just the photos that are the culmination of the day, you just have to celebrate your most beautiful day, celebrate with your friends and marry your favourite person in the world. There is simply no time for a long face. Obviously.
Our point 7: Be open to all the magical moments
One thing we can tell you is that not everything will go according to your scheduled plans on your big day. This is not a bad thing, most guests will not even notice the faux pas. More importantly, you should be open to the truly magical, small moments during your wedding. The embrace and the words of a special person. Perhaps it is an improvised speech of a study friend. Or try to catch a minute or two with your treasure alone.
Well, what do you think now? Would you have thought that these are the moments that other couples are talking about afterwards? Are you already married and have something to add? Tell us, we appreciate your comment.