The presentation of a speech at a wedding
The wedding speech itself is a tradition deeply interwoven with the wedding celebration. But it is far from easy to find the right words for or as the bride and groom in front of all your Friends and Family. Luckily, there are a few great tips and tricks to make you a real gem. How do the right words flow from the pen, and how do you describe the words beautifully in real life at a wedding?
Writer’s blackout? Not if you prepare yourself skilfully. You should start with the type of speech and the topic: Should the speech entertain the wedding company? Should it be emotional? Would you like to recite verses or would you prefer a continuous text?
Basically, a mixture of an emotional spectrum is the most beautiful, but even more important is authenticity. Therefore, we recommend that you write your speech in any case by yourself and pack all the real experiences in the box.
What helps: A mind mapping. Keep your thoughts running and write down whatever comes to your mind. You can arrange your thoughts in the second step.
These can be for example:
• The introductory story of the bride and groom
• Amusing treats from the student days or pre-wedding life
• Characteristic, peculiarities
• Funny faux pas
• Humorous future wishes
We think that inside jokes and overly personal faux pas are taboo during the wedding speech. Give up empty phrases, and keep the speech short and crisp.
• A Word about the Form: Break your speech into an introduction, the main part and a conclusion. Use short sentences.
An important part of your speech is a clean introduction. Try to break the ice with your first few lines and sentences and elicit an emotion, such as a laugh, from your listeners. The beginning may be naughty, such as a daring statement. Gladly also funny with a humorous quote in consideration of the marriage of the bride and groom.
In the main part, you pack what you find worth mentioning: special moments, peculiarities or traits. Remember while writing that you can create tension with rhetorical pauses and glances to keep your audience listening. Keep the famous thread in mind: It’s about love and feelings. No voluminous work is required, but great feelings are often heard well.
We like the sentence we read in a Brigitte blog: “Use metaphors (visual transmission), exaggerations and varied vocabulary, combine amusing with thoughtful, and take your listeners on an emotional journey during the speech.”
The conclusion of the speech: Finally, you may once again apply really thick. Most people keep a brilliant final word in their memory. A nice move, for example, is a toast that involves the whole society. This strengthens the feeling of togetherness. In a last spell, challenge all guests to lift their glasses and toast together with you. You can also pick up something that you mentioned earlier in the text, so refer to your introductory quote or a joke.
Who holds a wedding speech?
A possible procedure:
1. The speech of the bride’s father: He hands the daughter symbolically into the arms of the groom
2. The groom’s oath to the bride
Important: Communicate with each other before the wedding about your themes and coordinate the speeches. Nothing is more boring than numerous speeches that are too much alike.
Wedding speech number one is that of the bride’s father (sometimes the bride’s mother). He (she) describes anecdotes from the childhood and the development of the girl to the adult woman. Also, the bride’s father welcomes his “new son” in the family. Funny is often a lively narration of the first impression of the groom.
The speech of the groom can be very beautiful and emotional when he praises the beauty, wisdom and uniqueness of his bride. Often he also welcomes the guests and thanks them.
The witnesses often provide momentum at the end: funny anecdotes and slightly piquant details are well received.
The right time for a wedding speech?
Timing is key. In general, this process has proven itself: You can hold a wedding speech when all the guests are sitting at the table and have already had a drink and eaten something small. Mostly, the father of the bride gives his speech after the starter, between the other courses follow the other speeches.
How long should the speech be?
Unfortunately, wedding speeches tend to be lengthy (but this is what we are working on). In the brevity lies the spice, (Is a Switzerland quote) and five to six minutes are usually perfect. A lot of stories can be told in five minutes.
Looking good on wedding photos!
Do not worry about us, wedding photographers or the camera! From a photographic point of view, we need a maximum of 3-4 good photos of the speaker and the rest of the time we use to photograph the audience! Take care of your speech and we’ll put everyone in the right light! Tip: The nicest thing is when the speaker is at his own table and gets a microphone. But make sure that you do not stand in the middle of the wedding band or in front of the buffet table, because that can seem strange.
The preparation: practice, practice.
You made it, the speech is written. The next step: you have to pack the emotions into the lecture. Very few of us are blessed with a stage-spinning talent, and it is not without reason that professional stage personalities practice their program for months. Read the speech aloud and improve it. Practice your speech in front of the mirror, and plan what gestures and facial expressions will fit and when.
Write: Put it on a card
Nerve tingling? Belongs to it, nobody wants to make a monkey while reciting the speech. After you have edited your speech, you should print it on index cards. It is not a problem if you simply read parts of your speech – if you are well prepared, you will find yourself in the flow.
Important tip: Number your index cards. If they fall down, you will not get bogged down.
And please do not worry about stage fright. Your excitement and your emotions show your audience that the bridal couple and the things you are talking about are important to you. A few small slipways are authentic and will spice up your speech.
Ready to start the speech? Let us know how it works, we look forward to it. Would love to hear your thoughts or tips if you have done a speech before!