It’s wedding time. From May to September it feels as if all my friends getting married. Facebook and Instagram source over of wedding photos with happy people. All kinds of couples are there. Those who have known each other forever, and those that were thought of, would never hold. They all have one thing in common: They have decided to go the way together from now on. So what are the things you should experience together before the wedding?
With the marriage you make your happiness perfect, no question. But relationships are not easy, and marriage is not at all. Suddenly one is bound to a man in front of the law. And as beautiful as that is, it is also a huge responsibility, which should only be accepted, if one is quite sure.
We find that mega important. That is why couples have answered us, what has helped them to decide for each other. To make sure.
Our Top 7:
No. 1. Provide variety
No matter whether fix scheduled date night or spontaneous urban stripe: provides for variety and preserves the attractiveness. Constant routine removes the tension from the relationship. Exciting activities, on the other hand, give you as a partner the opportunity to experience great things together or even to get to know new sides to you. Some inspirations:
- Go to a “draw date” with vino: Can one imagine as a loose drawing course. If this offer does not exist in your city, you will distinguish and evaluate your art. Do not forget Vino.
- Pack a non-alcoholic punch or a bottle of champagne and crawl onto a roof terrace.
- Exchange the gender roles one day. After the day, exchange what you learned in the day.
- Get advice from research experts about anything – and go on a research trip together
- Shoot a personal video and just have fun with it.
No. 2. Travel together
We like to travel – alone and together. And we are convinced that long journeys are essential for a good partnership: when we travel, we step out of our comfort zone. So we show our partner sites to us, which he or she has not yet seen. How do we react to stress? What if we were completely lost? What if we have to stay somewhere in nowhere?
Our tip: Define and plan your dream trip. Friends of us have spent their dream travel in Antarctica. The longer you can travel together, the better. Take your time.
No. 3. Show each other your most honest sides
Speaking of new pages show: Before the wedding is the time, really the pants down. Emotional and so. When we are in love, we have the tendency to perform only our best behavior. However, we also have to get rid of each other when the pink glasses are no longer there. Show your partner how you are about it, if it really goes to the one made.
No. 4. Contend
Do it at least once: Dispute that the rags fly. In the way you argue, you can see how each other deals with conflicts – and how you solve them. Therefore it is quite recommendable to lead a few juicy quarrels.
This is also nothing negative – studies even show that quarrels in a relationship can be healthy, because one does not emotions emptied and out of love about essential things.
No. 5. Do you really love yourself? Or: “I am exhausted from living up to your expectations of me.”
Stupid question, we are here finally on a wedding site. Sure, you love yourself. And theoretically, we also know that love means freedom. Nevertheless, the practice looks different: you certainly have expectations. Communicate the!
- Share your joint plans and set goals for you as a couple. Is it going in the right direction? Your future is a common effort, not a single fight. This is why it is important to expect expectations to be realistic.
- Show each other that you love each other. Through deeds and gestures. Through confirmation, clear compliments and honest appreciation.
Discussed before the wedding also about common life goals. Do you want to have children? If one of you absolutely wants children, but the other is not, you should look into reality. No-kids people do not suddenly turn into kiddie people. Conversely.
No. 6. How much single life do you want to keep?
Most couples already live together before the wedding. Some move into a shared apartment after marriage, and others keep their two dwellings at once. You should decide for both of you how much distance you need and in your relationship.
If you are both in the life and also safe and happy as your own person, it is not a problem to give the other a certain life within a certain framework. The extent of this life, however, varies from relationship to relationship and life.
No. 7. Talk about it. Also about topics like – huch – sex!
How well can you talk about supercritical topics, in which you may not agree? Is it equal to quarreling or can you even let the five be straight? Is there even the possibility of a harmonious result?
Most people successfully present their own standpoint. In a relationship, however, one learns that one has to reach a point where one can confide oneself with worry or criticism, without fear of condemnation or a counter-attack.
A good example: The Sextalk. As long as everything is still sexy and pink is, you can not even imagine that you can someday no longer dolle attracts. At the latest, however, in the fourth year (statistically speaking), the lust for the partner lags. Can not hurt if you have already been dealing with how to deal with it.
What is your claim to a relationship? What are your ideas for other couples? We say thank you for reading and enjoy your thoughts: Leave a comment.